You cannot convince me that a mother telling her teenage daughter she’s leaving her father because she is romantically involved with someone even younger than her teenage daughter doesn’t cause significant trauma to her children. She should be ashamed of herself.
Different culture, with different moral norms. Their sense of self is not as affected by those around them either, including to a certain extent their parents. We can't understand that fully. What other people think of us is where our sense of self starts, unlike in France.
Her youngest daughter who was 9 at the time said this, at 34...
"the children "suffered as little as possible" when her parents divorced." His parents made a request of her that she wait until he turned 18 to continue seeing him. They didn't try to outright stop the relationship. Yes the relationship caused the children pain, but I don't think the pain was as serious as if that had happened to a family in the US. Divorce causes pain no matter how old the individuals involved.
I'm not attempting to excuse or not excuse this behavior. While it was not approved of, I'm simply trying to explain that it was not seen by the community, the two families, the children, and the public at large with the same sort of revulsion that it evokes here.
Here is an example of something that isn't the same in our culture. I don't understand it, but even today, marriages exist with a mistress on the side. They certainly did when I was there in the early nineties. The wife usually knows about the mistress.(and their is also a manstress involved from time to time.) From what I understand, in at least 30% if not half of these relationships, the other person in the relationship is not upset or angry about it. I saw a marriage like this up close, in the family I stayed with for the first 3 or 4 mo I was there. He usually had a mistress that lasted for long periods of time, while she had dalliances from time to time. Both were very aware of the situation.
I couldn't be happy in a relationship like that. Nor could most of the people I know. But that's something ingrained in their culture. There are things one can't completely understand if they are not raised in another culture.