I think you are correct. Hard to know how it will settle out in the end.
I am cool with call folks whatever they prefer to be called. Jim, June, he, her, they. I will try to remember. But it is deeply offensive to be viewed as prehistoric because I don't have my pronouns in my signature.
Everybody wants to jump off a cliff it seems sometimes.
Agree, and with your comment that Dems can be their own worst enemy with this stuff. It's worth pointing out that Kamala Harris is not very popular in or out of the party. She did pretty terribly in the 2020 primaries.
Some people around here put that stuff in their email signature. I've even heard the argument that it is the moral/ethical thing to do. I disagree. I use a (mostly) male name. I have a beard, and otherwise dress and style myself in ways customary for men. Anyone interacting with me would immediately perceive me as a male. If, for some reason, I wanted to be called "her" despite all that, then hey, okay. But the onus is on me at that point to make that clear, and to be patient with people that are well-meaning but get it wrong on occasion.
By the same token, I also wouldn't be offended if I got a random email that addressed me as "her". I'd assume it was just a mistake or typo, or if in person, some sort of Freudian slip of the tongue, not malice. I'd politely correct them and move on. It would only be offensive if they made a point to continue the pattern.
I do get that the trans/nonbinary community has to deal with that a lot more frequently, and they do face some real bigots. That's a rough ticket, but making
everyone disclose their preferred pronouns
constantly is a bizarre burden on everyone else, and I don't actually think it would help alleviate the problem much.
Particularly if everyone at a meeting is required/expected to say their pronouns. Then it all just turns into that much more noise that most people ignore during introductions and half the people won't even register you asked for something unique.
EDIT: About the blind and the blue dress thing... I am legit confused. How does telling someone who has no concept of "blue" that your dress is "blue" help them in any way?