No they aren’t. They are taking advantage of the lack of clarity in laws / policies. Unfortunately, many companies and organizations are all too happy to accommodate them. Same thing happened to her in the Seattle airport last year at soccer nationals. I went up to a security guard and was promptly told he couldn’t do anything due to policy. Go figure
So, especially if the bathroom laws are supposed to be meant to give recourse for situations like yours and are not supposed to affect trans people, reminding lawmakers that trans people exist and should be considered with compassion when framing such laws should be a well received point, not a source of outrage.
The recent EO about gender at conception being what is on your passport is not going to make life easy for people who have had surgeries and absolutely look and appear female/male in all respects. Trans individuals are going to get held up at ports of entry and possibly accused of stealing someone's passport. It singles them out unfairly.
I'm no SJW on the trans front. The issues raised are thorny at best. I am not sure that there are any answers on the sports front that won't leave someone justifiably upset. But we shouldn't forget that whatever judgement you make of trans people, that they are human beings just trying to get through life like any of us. Regardless of which sports team you think they ought to play on or what bathroom they ought to use, they deserve dignity and respect as humans that just want to play soccer or use the bathroom or whatever.
And I do understand why you might want to deny them the right to play soccer on the 'wrong' team. And honestly, I can accept that given the issues involved. But we can still acknowledge that forcing a trans person to play on what they consider the "wrong" team is humiliating for them and deeply isolating, and not dismiss that as if it is something they deserve for deigning to be trans.
Approaching the problem with that level of respect for the individual while acknowledging the issues it raises would maybe allow for compromises that allow more preservation of dignity. Like, at least for high school sports, letting a trans person practice and even play some games with the team they identify with for credit, but maybe not allow competition in district/state games/tournaments/meets and not formally recognize any individual records. That would allow genuinely trans people to experience the camraderie of a team sport and contribute to a team's success without people getting outraged because "They won state because they used a trans person!" It also plausibly gives that trans person some anonymity as a trans person. While sitting out important games will hurt, they at least aren't being outed and humiliated because they are forced to be on the assigned birth gender team. Noone outside the school/state sports authorities needs to know.
There would of course be issues, and some sports would be harder to implement than others. I am sure someone will raise a reason or two that it could never ever work like that.
But people and politicians aren't interested in even trying to find solutions anymore. They are interested in being right and getting everything they want or nothing, and having niche cultural issues to use as a political cudgel. See: almost any issue the last twenty years.